Khergit Deserters
Crom's Angels
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Posted - 2015.11.03 00:21:30 -
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Nafensoriel wrote:Funny how people assume everyone they dont agree with is somehow younger and never apparently have any children.
The kind of misinformation that a parent has an automatic right to micromanage a childs life is mentally insane. We guide. We teach. We warn. Automatically assuming you know best always and forever without fail is a surefire way to lead your child down dangerous paths. It's a cheap dominance trait. Does a child know more about life than we do as parents? No. They havent experienced life yet in any volume yet to allow them to know. Does this mean they cant understand the concepts? No. Does this mean they have no right to question? Hell no. There is a fine line between being a parent and being a warden.
As to parents not valuing their children as number 1 priority.. well I guess this is just a factor of education or lack there of.
This is a fact. A significant majority of young parents actually find their children a burden to their lives. Mostly due to rushing into it to meet fake social needs or general lack of understanding of what being a parent means. Want a brutal example? One of my coworkers has never said a kind word about his son in 12 years. He does all the right parent things(school, sports, social events) but he never mentally wants to be there. The reason? He never wanted children. He socially caved to his wifes wishes because "happy wife happy life and I can deal with it for 18 years".
Stop pretending every family is a fairy tale of perfection and realize we are all a big pile of screwed up trying to figure out each other as human beings.
This one has always made a lot of sense to me, as both a kid and a parent. Especially when I see football dads driving kids hard, tiger moms driving kids harder. From Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet. It's from the 1920s or something, ignore the deity references if you don't like them.
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
You're trying to conquer me
You never will conquer me
-Delroy Wilson
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